In class this week we discussed a lot in regards to parenting. Two of the most common ways people parent is either through rewards or punishments. However we discussed how provided our children with consequences is a lot healthier than rewards or punishments. Consequences can be good or bad and are discussed and agreed upon with the children before things are set into action. Consequences is the way the Lord teaches us. The best example of a parent.
We also discussed how to confront our children, first a pure request. Through this we are giving our children opportunities to learn and grow. A polite request helps provide them with direction, and an opportunity to do the request on their own. Next we provide an I statement, for example:
When you..
I feel..
Because..
I would like..
of course there will be times that we have to provide them with a firmer statement. But when we give our children respect they will then be able to treat others with respect as well. Our communication skills with them will effect the way they are able to communicate with others around them. One of the most important things we can teach our children is how to be assertive and forgiving. A hard combination but this model of of pure request, i statement and firmer request helps us to do so.
The best thing we can do is to remember our children are not only our children but children of God. Through prayer we can figure out the best routes to take for our family.
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